Monday, May 31, 2010

a-z of my house! :)

a few people have done this survey. i had to join in!

A- My AIR CONDITIONER is set on: non-existant. and right now. i wish WISH that i had to have one! im DONE with winter weather! lol.

B- My BEDROOM theme is: not finished. i might wanna get on that!

C- The CAR in the driveway is: a santa fe. :)

D- My DESK looks: a big mess of papers.

E- The EXACT time I wake up daily is: usually between 7:32 & 7:46. i make myself sleep until about 8:20.

F- The FIRST thing I wash in the shower is: hair. always.

G- My GARAGE is filled with: i actually dont have a garage! :) our small storage closet has a few boxes in it. and christmas stuff!

H- My HOME is: comfortable. i <3 it.

I- If you peeked INSIDE my bedroom you'd see: my bed. oh so amazingly comfortable. be jealous.
J- My favorite JUICE is: orange.

K- The best part of my KITCHEN is: all stainless! :)
L- The LAST person who visited my home was: billie jo.

M- The last piece of MAIL for me was: one of my pen pals! :)

N- My NEIGHBORS think I'm: not at fault for having their girlfriends car towed. haha.

O- If you OPENED my fridge you'd see: salad fixings. jello. tea.

P- My last house PARTY was: ummm..

Q- A QUICK meal I like to fix is: tacos! :) super yum.

R- My favorite ROOM of the house is: downstairs. its SO COMFORTABLE!
S- The SHAMPOO brand I use is: panteen.

T- My largest TELEVISION is: an OLD one! LOL

U- UNDER my bed you will find: a few blankets.

V- The last time I VACUUMED was: when i cleaned out my new chair! :)
W- Looking out my WINDOW I see: the other apartments.

X- I wish I had X-TRA: bedroom. so we can make it the craft room. and downstairs just a random room with NO TV!

Y- My YARD is: TINY!

Z- ZZZZZZZ My bedtime is: when i decided to sleep.

Sunday, May 30, 2010


its late. im tired. its almost june. which means that dreaded day is almost here. fathers day. why i thought it would be a good idea to read my blogs from when my dad died. i dont know. but i have run out of tissue. so i just gotta go to bed. i went through my myspace- where i used to blog a lot and pulled up the blog i wrong 8/17/2007. 1 year after my dad died.

Friday, August 17, 2007

reliving the dead.

so we fooled josh and rebecca
into thinking that we were going home to get some rest.
they had been hasseling mom about her much needed rest.
so we looked like we were leaving.
even drove home to get some stuff.
and came right back.

i brought my big stripped comforter.
the one i bough for college.
my body pillow.
with the ugly green case.
i brought my cell phone charger.
and i called ryan.
he was my help.
he was my friend.
he was my comfort.

we went back to the hospital.
we went into the room.
he was laying there.
breathing hard.

i set my stuff down.
and went into the waiting office area that we stayed in.
i turned off the lights.
plugged in my cell phone.
and snuggled to my body pillow.
and called ryan again.

we were talking about sleeping in the hospital.
and about how i hate mice.
and he was making me laugh.
like he always did.

then a light come bursting in.
and mom says.

'get up sarah. your dads not going to make it.'

i almost thought she was kidding.
and she left.
and it got dark again.

i told ryan.
i choked back my emotion.
he told me he loved me.
and we hung up.

i called josh.
on the way to the room.
just a few feet of a walk.
i said get up.
dads not going to make it.
he proceeded to try and argue with me.
about why we came back to the hospital.
and i said..
josh. now is not the time.
i just need you to get here.

i called brother reynolds.
over . and over again.

i called steve and becky.
i called pastor.
i called tim and commie.
i called ryan.
i think thats why i miss him so.
my ryan.
my comfort.
the one who got me through.

i called aunt judy.
and she checked out of her hotel.
weird. sleeping pills. weird.

josh and rebecca came in.
tim came in.
pastor got there.
the wife of the new couple. hollysue. was there.

my head was spinning.

the nurse brought water.

mom was crying.

josh was talking in a soothing voice.
that wasnt soothing.
stating that it was okay for him to let go.

mom had a break down.
i had a melt down.
i freaked out.
freaking out.
almost yelling.
desperate for my mom.
to remember that she has something esle to live for.
besides him.

but it brought her out for a minute.
and she was the mom again.

she held me.

josh and rebecca looked on.
pastor looked on.

i think that is the weakest that my pastor has ever seen me.

i didnt mean to.
it just happened.
im strong.
just not then.

and then i got some water.

the nurse brought ice chips and water.

they turned up the morphine.
so he could die without knowing it.
he would just slowly suffocate.

rebecca was my savior at this time.
i miss the times where she was my sister in law.
and not just rebecca.
but family is family i suppose.

she held josh on the left side of the bed.
i held mom on the right side of the bed.
pastor stood at the foot of the bed.
tim came in and my mom hugged him.
what seemed like days. was only minutes.
seconds even.

its 1:32 am right now.
12 minutes.
and hes dead for a whole year.

josh kept that soothing voice up.
i went to the hall.
i saw redana.
and that hollysue in the hall as well.

1:33. 11 mins..

hollysues presence was strangly comforting.
she didnt know my dad.
shed seen him.
but she had only been here...
less than 2 months.

1:34... 10 mins..

she had only know my family for a short period of time.
why was she there?
because she knew i would need comforting.

1:35... 9 mins..

and she was right.
oh so right.

they went and sat down in the waiting area.
i went back into the room.
and everything suddenly is blurry.

i dont really remeber what happened here.

1:36 .. 8 mins.

i remember..
i leaned over my mom.
and whispered.
i forgive you dad.
and i love you.

1:37... 7 mins..

why is it taking me soo long to write in between the minutes.

i know that mom was crying.
and that rebecca was watchin his breathing.
i know that josh was looking so sad.
he would cry sometimes.
and it would kill me.

1:38... 6 mins.

it would literly break me into pieces.
and mom was there.
holding his hand.
rubbing him.
telling him not to go.

he didnt listen.
his breath got shallower.
and shallower..
is shallower even a word?

1:39 ... 5 mins..

i remember that i was standing right by the moniter thing.
it was off i believe.
and mom was sitting beside him.
josh and rebecca..

1:40... 4 mins..

josh and rebecca were still on the left.
and pastor was at his foot.
mom got up to hug on him.
i dont know..
but she leaned over him.
and then started balling.
and crying.
pastor came around to the right side.
and rebecca looked up at me...

1:41.. 3 mins..

and nodded her head.
pastor cvame around to the side of the bed that we were on.
josh reached over the bed.

1:42... 2 mins..

and grabbed pastors hand..
the one with the watch on it..
he pulled the pin out of the watch.
pastor looked at it.
and i think he nodded.

1:43.. 1 min..

1:44 .. its been a year since the pin was pulled.
its been a year since he took his last breath.
its been a year from hell.
but a year from heaven.

josh said..
i envy you dad.

i dont think ill ever forget him saying that.

i dont remeber if i cried.

i think i wanted to.
but i just backed away from the body.
hes dead.

his feet were uncovered.
i miss his feet.
he had the BIGGEST big TOE EVER!
it was huge.

hes dead.

i hugged mom.
she cried.
i hugged tim.
he comforted me.
i reached for my phone to call ryan.
and brother reynolds had called.
i misssed his calls.
i was about to call ryan.
and josh came up.
i didnt knwo what to do.
other than hug him.
i didnt know any comforting words.
should i be the comforter?
we hugged.
and we cried.

i hugged rebecca.

and then i left the room.
with all of my belongings.
with all of his belongings.

leaving with a dead guys glasses.
with his pants?
i dont get it.

we sat in the lobby area.
people hugged me.
i felt to numb to cry.

i felt alone.
with a crowd of people.
i think i wanted to scream.
i know that i wanted out in the cold air.

we sat there.
people didnt really look at me.
what do you say to a girl.
whos dad just died.
who you just saw alive.

why wasnt ryan HERE for me.
i dont get it.
i needed him.
he wasnt here.


whats a girl to do.

we walked to pastors car.
i just remember that the walk was the longest walk of my life.
i was so numb.
my feelings were off.
i couldnt breath.

it was cool out.
pastor drove the car around.
we got mom in.
she was crying.
lightly sobbing.

i got in.
no words came.
i was speechless.

i wasnt hurt.
i wasnt mad.
i wasnt.
i just was.
we drove.

we hit 205.
and i called adams voice mail.
i left him a message.
my dads dead. call me.
something to that effect.
it was late.

minutes. ran into hours.

we got home and put mom to bed.
she fell right asleep.
we gave her the wacky sleeping pill.
aunt judy got her room back.

pastor fell asleep at the end of the couch.
i curled up with my pillow.
and sister graves talked to me.
i dont know what we talked about.
but we talked.
she talked.

josh and rebecca got home after that.
i dont know..

we talked about a funeral.
we talked about arrangments.

i knew i wanted megan in it.
i dont know why.
and i wanted tim to speak.
and steve.

thats all i cared about.

im tired.
dads been dead. one year and 10 mins.

his body was cut up.
donated to science.
he now rests in my cedar chest.
in a pretty little box.

im tired.

i dont know what possessed me to write it all out.
my back hurts now.
my butt is def killing me from this hard chair.

i forgave him.

i did.

im glad.

this year has been the worst and yet the best.
the worst for me emotionally.
the best for me spiritually.

i had the worst holidays.
and the best summer.
the best summer.

i let go of ryan.
it was soo hard.
i fought God for a good 6 months.
and God won!

Hes kinda a bully.
he gets his way in the end.

i cant think anymore.
i think im heading back to numb.

2:00.. am. -16 minutes

 Posted @ 02:00 AM

If you read all that, *BIG HUGS* Thanks. If not, I dont blame you! :) Its been a crazy last couple of years. so much has changed, yet so many things have stayed the same. ive been missin my dad as of late. reading the old blogs probably wasnt the smartest thing i coulda done. but its already done. now imma bout to be off to bed. im super exhausted!


dear ma'am.
great minds think alike.
and i wish they didnt.
but thank you.
i appreciate it, i think.
but i just cant voice it.

dear sir.
thank your for eventually letting me give you up.
today i heard a song lyric that reminded me of you.
a broken heart doesnt break even.
someone always is much more hurt than the other.
its been hard not to think about you lately.
but im glad its not all the time.

dear sir.
fathers day is coming up.
its harder than normal.
but i will be fine, even if i have to fake it.
you would have wanted me to be fine.
i wish i could talk to you about this.
i never wanted to talk to you.
now that i do, its to late.
i am sorry about that.
i love you.
i miss you.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

giveaways! :)

i <3 giveaways! i love them love them love them!

Here are two.


Wednesday, May 19, 2010

i miss you.

my weekend was crazy and amazing.
ill post about that later.
but right now.
a few pics.
of how i feel.
not sad.
just missing.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010


i LOVE Sandra Bullock!
We were watching Practical Magic the other night on TV.
Here are a few of my favorite quotes from that movie!

Gillian: You ever put your arms out and spin really, really fast?
Antonia: She does it all the time.
Gillian: She does? Well, that's what love is like. It makes your heart race. It turns the world upside down. But if you're not careful, if you don't keep your eyes on something still, you can lose your balance. You can't see what's happening to the people around you. You can't see that you're about to fall.
Young Sally: He will hear my call a mile away. He will whistle my favorite song. He can ride a pony backwards.
Young Gillian: What are you doing?
Young Sally: Summoning up a true love spell called Amas Veritas. He can flip pancakes in the air. He'll be marvelously kind. And his favorite shape will be a star. And he'll have one green eye and one blue.
Young Gillian: Thought you never wanted to fall in love.
Young Sally: That's the point. The guy I dreamed of doesn't exist. And if he doesn't exist, I'll never die of a broken heart.
Sally: I dream of a love that even time will lie down and be still for.

Monday, May 10, 2010

i havent met you yet.

this dude makes me smile.
i think i have a small crush.

disguise kit! alright!

i found this @ The Project Girl's blog!
and i LOVE it! :)

Mothers Day.

Today was an awesome day! Im exhausted. But it was good! Mothers Day has become bittersweet for me. I have the best momma in the WORLD! She is honestly the greatest momma any girl can ask for. But Mothers Day ushers in Fathers Day. Each year, Im not ready for it. This year its seeming to be worse than normal.

Back to my momma - She is the GREATEST! some days she is crazy. some days she is over protective. some days i wanna ship her off to my aunts. but every day i love her. she has been the most solid rock in my life. when i didnt think i could go on, i had her in my corner. silently pushing me to go on.

she is amazing. and i love her.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Saturday, May 8, 2010

mute. but not.

Cat posted in her blog at one point that her fingers were feeling mute. and thats really how i feel. i feel that i am too worried about the people that actually read my blog. (thank you to those who do btw) but i started a blog because i wanted to remember. i wanted to be able to vent. i wanted to be able to write and not have to hold back. i want to have something to say that people will find interesting, i want that. but i desire more to be able to say what i feel. instead of filtering.

today i learned over again that 'just because someone doesnt love you the way that you want them to, doesnt mean they dont love you the way they know how.' its something that by now, growing up in my house, with my dad and my brother.. that i should have learned. but i think i need the repeat reminder.

dear sir.
i am sorry that i judged you. i am sorry that i forgot that we operate differently. i am sorry that i almost gave up. and i am sorry that i had thoughts of worse. thank you for reminding me.

Thursday, May 6, 2010


ive been in a etsy mood for the last few days.
i love that site.
i swear that my credit card is about to be maxed.
which is no bueno! haha.

when i buy my own house...

i want these in my kitchen

i want this in my media room

i want this in my (future) daughters room

i want this somewhere...

i want a house full of these prints

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

ETSY! :)

i set up my

i dont have anything in it yet.
but the first step is done.


i am super stoked about this.
now to get the profile worked on.
pictures taken.
more crafts made.
allllright! :)

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

and i would!

so i completed my first painting! :)
its a REALLY bad picture.
i cannot wait until i get my camera back.
i will take a better picture!

i love it tho!
it was fun!
and the quote is very true.
i WOULD fly to the moon and back.
im ready for that reason.

imma happy girl.

random etsy love.

i love like woah this picture.
if it wasnt sold out.
i would be the proud owner.

has motivation. alllright!

so yesterday i went to the craft store. $55 later i came out with 2 bags of stuff. ready to do my first painting! :)

i have to write the words on it now, but the rest of its finished.
and i am sooo happy with it.


i cannot wait to post pictures!

Saturday, May 1, 2010

Dear You....

or hurt. its a choice to be hurt.
can you please start soon.

thank you.